If you are facing a divorce, you are probably carefully considering everything that you should be doing. There are, however, several things you should avoid doing. Understanding what not to do as you move forward with your divorce can be just as important as focusing on what it is you should be doing.
Do Not Make Decisions in Haste
While it is easy to become swept away by emotions related to divorce, it is always a bad idea to make important decisions in the heat of the moment. Sit with your divorce decision for a decent amount of time. It may be that you simply need to make some changes in your relationship and that divorce could be too drastic a response.
If divorce is imminent, allow yourself the time you need to make important decisions within the divorce process. The outcome of your divorce will significantly affect you and your children’s futures, and you want to thoughtfully approach each important decision along the way with reason and purpose.
Do Not Forget to Seek the Help You Need
With a divorce come a lot of mixed emotions that can feel overwhelming. Do not think you have no choice but to simply live with the emotional turmoil. Speaking to a counselor who has experience dealing with divorce issues can help you work through your difficult emotions. Further, counseling can allow you to better understand your emotions and to apply this understanding to making better decisions throughout the divorce process and beyond. Sharing your feeling with trusted friends and family members can also help. Bottling up your feelings is likely to do far more harm than good.
Do Not Put Off Consulting with an Experienced Divorce Attorney
Divorce comes at you fast, and the sheer pace of it can lead you to put off seeking professional legal counsel, but this is neither in your best interests nor in the best interests of your case. An experienced divorce attorney will help you take the necessary legal steps in a timely manner, to make well considered decisions, and to feel more comfortable with the divorce process in general.
Do Not Hide Your Possessions
Ultimately, divorce is about legally dissolving your marriage, which includes the just and right division of your marital property. This can be an extremely difficult process, and it can tempt some otherwise reasonable people to take the unreasonable step of hiding possessions in one way or another. This tactic, however, is not only dishonest but can also backfire legally. If the court discovers your subterfuge, it can take it into consideration when determining your share of the marital property in question.