Collaborative Divorce in Texas


Updated on August 22, 2022

When you hear the term collaborative divorce, mediation may come to mind. However, in reality, collaborative divorce is about much more than mediation alone, although your collaborative divorce may involve mediation.

Collaborative divorce signifies a commitment to working out the terms of your divorce between yourselves—with the skilled guidance of your respective collaborative divorce attorneys and any other professionals you may need.

When you pursue a collaborative divorce, you set the stage for working together—even if this means communicating through your divorce attorneys—and your efforts can ultimately prove beneficial to everyone involved, including your children.

For more information about collaborative divorce and to learn if it will be a good fit for your situation, consult with a Killeen divorce attorney.

Divorce Basics

The most important point to keep in mind about collaborative divorce is that the work that needs to be done is no different than in any other divorce. You and your divorcing spouse must resolve the following divorce terms (as applicable):

Each of these terms can present its own unique challenges, but hammering out compromises that both of you can agree to and that also protect your parental and financial rights is the crux of collaborative divorce.

The Division of Your Marital Property

The property and assets that you and your spouse amass over the course of your marriage are considered marital property in the eyes of the law, and they must be divided equitably in the event of divorce. Equitably means fairly—after the unique circumstances of your marriage have been taken into careful consideration.

It is important to distinguish between marital and separate property because your separate property will remain your own property moving forward, but the dividing line between separate and marital property often becomes a sticking point in a divorce.

Those assets that you bring into your marriage with you and that you keep separate throughout your marriage amount to separate property, but keeping the property separate can be exceptionally difficult.

For example, if you bring an IRA (or another kind of retirement account) into your marriage with you, its original value will likely remain your separate property, but any increase in its value over the years will probably be deemed marital property. Learn more about dividing retirement accounts by reading “Is My Spouse Entitled to My Retirement Benefits in a Texas Divorce?

All told, keeping separate property apart from marital property can become very complicated very quickly.

There are two kinds of assets that are exceptions to the rule of marital property:

  • Gifts that you receive in your name alone during the course of your marriage are your separate property.

  • Inheritances that you receive in your name alone during the course of your marriage are your separate property.

Your Child Custody Arrangements

Another issue that is often hotly contested in divorce is child custody. In Texas, child custody is divided into legal and physical custody. Legal custody determines who will continue making important decisions on behalf of your children. The categories of decisions involved include the following:

Physical custody, on the other hand, addresses the matter of how you will divide your parenting time. While you can devise a schedule that addresses your family’s unique needs—and that may not look like any other divorced couple’s—there are two basic approaches to physical custody:

  • One of you becomes the primary custodial parent with whom your shared children make their primary home and spend the majority of their overnights.

  • You and your ex split your parenting time more equally and have roughly the same number of overnights with your shared children.

When the court intervenes on matters that relate to children, the best interests of those children are always its guide.

Child Support

Child support is the tool employed by the State of Texas to help ensure that both parents continue to support their children throughout their childhood years. Child support is calculated according to strict state guidelines. It is important to note, however, that if there is a compelling reason for doing so, the court has the discretion to go outside these guidelines.

Generally, if one of you becomes the primary custodial parent, the other will pay him or her child support, but even if you and your ex split your parenting time exactly in half, the parent with the higher income is very likely to have a child support obligation. (“Do You Have to Pay Child Support with Joint Custody in Texas?”)


Many divorces proceed without alimony playing a role, but when there is a need, alimony plays an important function in divorce cases. Alimony is designed to provide a spouse who is financially disadvantaged by the divorce the financial help that he or she needs to become more financially independent.

Alimony payments are usually intended to help the spouse who has experienced a financial downturn obtain the education, job training, or experience he or she needs to support himself or herself. Wide-ranging considerations go into the determination of alimony, but some of the most important include the following factors:

  • The length of the marriage

  • The level of education and earning potential of both spouses

  • The contributions each spouse made to the marriage, including housekeeping and raising the children

  • The separate property of each and the division of marital property received by each

The ultimate goal of your collaborative divorce is to resolve each of the terms of divorce listed above without the need for the court’s intervention. An experienced Killeen divorce attorney can help you negotiate with your ex and find mutually agreeable terms. Contact a lawyer today to discuss the terms that apply to your case.

The Collaborative Divorce Process

In order to enter into a collaborative divorce, you and your divorcing spouse will need to sign a Participation Agreement, which outlines the rules of engagement.

Your dedicated Killeen divorce attorney will go over this agreement with you carefully to ensure that you understand what is involved and what is expected of you and that you are comfortable with the terms included. There are several basic elements of collaborative divorce that are important to understand.

You Will Have a Collaborative Divorce Attorney

You and your divorcing spouse will each be represented by your own divorce attorney who has specific experience in negotiations, in how collaborative divorces are structured, and in interpersonal conflict resolution.

Although you are going for collaboration here, you will not be flying solo; your collaborative divorce attorney is on your side and will be negotiating on behalf of your best interests. In other words, there is no need to worry about your parental and financial rights getting lost in the spirit of collaboration.

If you are unsure about hiring a divorce lawyer, read “Even the Simplest Divorce Can Benefit from an Experienced Divorce Attorney.” You can also schedule a FREE consultation with a Killeen lawyer to see how having a lawyer on your side can help you.

You Will Need to Collaborate with Your Spouse

The collaboration itself will involve a series of joint problem-solving sessions in which you, your soon-to-be-ex, and your respective attorneys will address the terms of your divorce that remain unresolved.

Although you are here to find mutually acceptable responses to these matters, you will remain represented by your separate legal counsel, which helps to ensure that you are not bamboozled by goodwill or the spirit of collaboration into losing track of what is best for you and your children.

An important aspect of this collaboration process is that everything that happens within this context is private, which many divorcing couples find extremely beneficial. The records from divorces that are litigated by the court are public information, and many couples would prefer to keep their divorce documents private.

Another benefit of collaborative divorce is its finality. Any statements or deals made during the collaborative divorce process will not make their way into divorce court (if your case ultimately finds its way there).

You Will Be Required to Share Documentation

It is important to note that a collaborative divorce is in no way an abbreviated divorce process when it comes to hammering out mutually acceptable terms. Both sides will be required to provide each other with every manner of documentation necessary to sort out the matters before them.

Generally, the following kinds of financial documentation are shared, along with any others that are deemed necessary:

If it has to do with money and finances, it is relevant and should be readily available to both sides.

You Should Keep a Cooperative Mindset

The most important factor of collaborative divorce is that you are both fully committed to cooperating throughout the divorce process. This does not mean that you and your divorcing spouse have to be best friends—or even that you have to be on speaking terms—but it does mean that you both have to be willing to do what it takes to achieve a collaborative divorce.

A collaborative divorce requires sharing information and documentation freely and openly, listening to reason, accepting reality, and making decisions that move your case forward (without acquiescing to anything that does not support your rights or treat you fairly).

Divorce is a stressful and emotional transition, and achieving this collaborative mindset can feel like a tall order, but with a committed Killeen collaborative divorce lawyer in your corner and your determination to keep the decision-making power between yourselves, you will be well on your way to accomplishing this important goal.

Your Divorcing Spouse’s Mindset Must Also Be Cooperative

A very important point to be made about collaborative divorce is that if you are not both fully on board, moving directly toward litigation is likely the most efficient and effective path forward.

If your spouse is more interested in sabotaging the process than in digging deep and achieving a collaborative divorce, you should not feel pressured to give it a try anyway. If your soon-to-be ex wants to make your divorce contentious, nothing you do is likely to snap him or her out of it, and cutting out the additional step of a collaborative divorce is likely in your best interest.

The Benefits of a Collaborative Divorce

The benefits of a collaborative divorce can be immense.


While the collaborative divorce process is not an abbreviated process, you can schedule the joint meetings between yourselves—with no need to fight for a spot on the court’s overcrowded docket. Further, when you are motivated to get the job done, you might be surprised by how effectively and efficiently you move through the collaborative divorce process.

For more tips on how to keep your divorce process short, read “How Long Does It Take to Get a Divorce in Texas?


The more complicated your divorce, the more costly you can expect the collaboration process to be (based on your requirements for outside professionals and for more careful analysis overall), but pursuing a collaborative divorce is almost certain to be less costly than going to court.

Preparing for court is an exacting, time-consuming process that is likely to include the need for costly and time-consuming motions that make taking your divorce to court as stressful as it is expensive. You can bypass this costly process by collaborating with your spouse and deciding your own divorce terms.

Your Kids

Divorce is hard on everyone, but if you and your divorcing spouse are at each other’s throats, your kids could be paying the steepest price. Committing to collaborate with your spouse is one of the best ways to help protect your children during divorce.

Seek the Professional Legal Guidance of an Experienced Killeen Collaborative Divorce Attorney Today

Brett Pritchard at The Law Office of Brett H. Pritchard in Killeen, Texas, is a compassionate collaborative divorce attorney who has the experience and legal savvy to help you obtain a collaborative divorce that works for you and that helps protect your children. To learn more, please do not wait to contact us online or call us at (254) 781-4222 today.

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